Anyway, this friend is, in direct contrast to me, arguably the most well known person in ze area – there’s hardly a day where he doesn’t know someone he passes on the street, and he’s got the personality to match – you know, really forward and outgoing, and so on. So through this friend i know many, many people – the other kind of friend i mentioned, which i guess we’ll call ‘secondary friends.’ Course i only hang about with them through my main friend. Everyone following so far? So all these people, for there be male and female involved, are the kind of people i will now describe – virtually every night spent out drinking, fucking, smoking weed, and so many variations of that. You know, like SUPER promiscuous, if i’m using that word right :P .

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Holy crap, there are a lot of people with some serious issues commenting here. I recommend therapy to figure out exactly what’s getting in the way, especially for some of the people who posted some batshit-crazy sounding rants that, quite frankly, made them sound completely psycho. Good luck. I lost it at age 23. I grew up in an incredibly religious family and attended church/parochial high school and college, and dated a girl until the end of college who wanted to wait until we were married. I wanted to of course, and felt that her hang ups were based less in her beliefs than social standards and pressure from her parents. After we broke up after 6 years and only sleeping together once. I discovered that that I had held a bit of resentment for her, but this did not translate into the generalized malice towards women that is acutely obvious in reading some of these posts.

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I chalked it up to us having divergent views on some pretty important topics and after about 3 months of grief stricken solitude my love and fascination for women and the need for their company and conversation got me over my self pity resulting from the breakup. Back in the early 90′s we had no internet porn to really speak of, so the option of fulfilling my curiosity and desire for the opposite sex electronically did not exist. To my great surprise and delight I found that if I tried my best to get female attention it was pretty easy as long as I respected and valued women. After a rough start I was able to have a pretty satisfying late 20′s and so on with a couple of dry spells (happens to us all) until I got married a couple of years ago (I’m 40 now). Granted I had some natural advantages, I’m super tall and have good hair, and I had an older brother to coach me on some of the nuances of how to dress/act/interact, but I think the main key to my success despite a slow start was not blaming the girls. They can’t help what type of guy they’re attracted to any more than men can.

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As time goes on I realize that never approaching women was the wrong attitude to have as I’ve always had this deluded idea that I would somehow just end up in bed with a girl without the significant work rate that’s needed get woman into bed. I also always thought I could fall back on the “Well I’ve never tried to get a girlfriend” answer when I was asked about my luck with women. When questioned by a friend “Have you had any girlfriends recently?” I answered “No, I just don’t have the confidence.” He replied how do you expect to get a girlfriend if you stay at home all day”.

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Also it’s not necessary to “dominate 95% of men out there” as one respondent said or be an Uber Alpha aside from just acting like an adult male and being able to take care of yourself. (paying for stuff for your dates is a must) About 19 and a half now, and I’m the only person i know in my area that hasn’t done a single thing with a girl, including the humble kiss. Let’s for now say that for someone to be a proper friend (as opposed to someone you just know and like) you have to be comfortable hanging about with them just themselves. In this respect, i now have about one ‘proper’ friend – but that really doesn’t bother me now, it was undeniably my fault. Just setting the scene.

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